They say watched pots never boil. And although it is most applicable as a metaphor, things really do seem to take a longer time to cook when you’re eyeing it. I can’t even begin to count how many times I’ve stirred a pot full of food on an empty stomach and it feeling like it took an eternity to finally be ready. But this expression got me to thinking about how many other areas in our lives this concept applies to. And the truth of the matter is that it’s all a matter of perspective. In all actuality it takes the same amount of time to cook the same meal whether you’re hungry or full but your condition is going to color your perspective greatly and I’d argue that the same is true of relationships.
Why does it seem that the more you want a relationship, the longer it takes to finally come about? The more you desire companionship, the further away all prospects seem to be? I’ve come to learn that it’s the same principle as the watched pot, it always boils… eventually, just not as fast as we would have liked. So what do we coin a new phrase? Watched relationships never come to fruition. Only they do, with time, they spring up from even the most deserted fields of singleness. The seed of it had been hidden so deep underneath the parched surface it was almost impossible to believe it was there. But it was and it does spring up when you least expect it.
So what are you waiting for? Get on with your life. Enjoy it. Single life is time you never get back once you take that plunge into the never-ending abyss of love, romance and coupledom. Stop watching and waiting for life to start once you find a boo and start watering your life with new discoveries of you! It’s only when you try to run on empty that you’re heightened to the emptiness that’s around you to distract you from the real emptiness that’s with in.
The Boo-Less Life 