You got what I need!! Throw back song right there y’all but timeless in its message, at least for me. See here’s why, there are some women who proclaim to not need men. They are phenomenal women by all intents and purposes. They usually enjoy great success in their careers, are financially stable and can pay their own bills, vacations, cars, etc. Are intelligent and have put themselves through school and have several degrees. They may even be handy around the house and know how to fix things. And usually they’ve been very badly burned by some boy who only professed to be a man. And so they rally: What do I need a man for? I’m my own woman! I got my own! I’m independent!! And that’s cool and all, but I must say that I am not in that camp! I need a man, but the key is I don’t need just any old type of man. And while I recognize my need for a man, that need does not have me. I am not at the mercy of that need. I have choices and options.
And while I admire such women’s success in virtually every area of their life, their lack of success in relationships is something that doesn’t rest comfortably with me. I can’t help but wonder if they are genuinely content at the prospect of never being with a man or if they use their other accomplishments as a mask to hide behind because they’re actually afraid of being vulnerable to love. But maybe us women shouldn’t put an exclamation point after the statement: I don’t need a man! Instead maybe we need to change up that statement to read: I don’t need a man WHO… And I’m sure almost every woman can go on and on filling in that blank.
But it is true that there are CERTAIN men that women JUST DO NOT NEED. But to concluded that as a woman I DO NOT NEED A MAN is problematic. We just have to be a little more selective with who we sing oh baby you got what I need to.
The Boo-Less Life 