Ah yes, the infamous “C” word. It’s the thing we long for when we haven’t yet acquired it. The thing we come to loathe once we feel we’ve settled too much into it. The thing we miss when we feel we’ve lost it. It’s the glue that holds relationships together, the stamp of approval that seals the deal yet simultaneously the culprit of complacency and at the root of that nagging “being taking for granted” feeling .
Yup you guessed it…COMFORTABLY. It’s an expensive commodity–too little is not enough yet too much of it can be a negative thing as well. Is this something we should strive for in our relationships? If we were to list words we would like to describe our relationships with a “boo” would comfortable make the top ten list? It’s a compliment for the one you’re with to say they feel “comfortable” around you. Or is it? When that comfortability translates into sharing the most intimate parts of your thought life with a person or feeling comfortable enough to have a bad hair day, then I’m all for it. But when it translates into bad hair days for the rest of the time you two are together, is that when comfy cozy becomes foe rather than a friend? And when feeling comfortable means you speak your mind 100% of the time without curtailing any thing you say, completely disregarding the other person’s views and perceptions of you…than the problems Houston had are nothing compared to the problems you and your boo will see.
Comfortability can all too often turn into a crutch as well. The tingly feeling that was once coveted and sought after can suddenly become the only reason you remain in a relationship with someone. When every thing else points to reasons why you should leave the person, “I’m comfortable with him/her”is certainly not an honorable reason to remain, yet for so many it is. Is there a such thing as being too comfortable in a relationship? When comfy-ness breeds complacency, it’s definitely time to rethink how cozy we’ve become. Are we making our living spaces too comfy for others who may not even belong there?