I interrupt this writing hiatus to bring you a long awaited, highly anticipated note from the author. Well whether or not it is any of those things, I felt I both wanted to, and needed to even. You see I have been away for quite some
time and every time I thought to post a new entry (and trust me I had PLENTY of material and thoughts on which to write) I talked myself out of it. See I wanted to come back with something that would wow the socks off of my “readers” (or at least the imaginary ones I would like to think I have). Heck I wanted to knock my own socks off with something profound and riveting. Problem was nothing ever seemed good enough. I mean you don’t just go on a sabbatical and come back with… nothing! You don’t take a journey to the end of the earth and back and when asked what you learned, have nothing to show for it. So I stalled. I wanted to “come back” more enlightened than before. Wiser. More insightful still. If nothing more I should be able to employ all the rules of editing I learned from that creative writing class right? There should be progression. A face lift for my blog ya know. So the thoughts would come but regarding them as annoying flies, I’d swat them away which resulted in, well… nothing. So I decided if not now than when? Maybe my initial entry won’t be the master piece I’m hoping it will be, but that doesn’t mean one won’t come in time. And by “it” I mean the entry that just epitomizes me as a wonderful writer and leaves every one saying “WOW”! I wrestled with do I pick up where I left off as if my falling into a black hole didn’t happen. Do I explain where I am. My direction so unclear. But I allowed that to steer me from the most relevant issue of all— I JUST LOVE WRITING!!!! So I don’t have all the answers, unsure of where I go with this blog, but certain of this one thing–I need to write. No better place to start than right here and see where it leads me…
Enough with the disclaimers.
*sigh of relief*
Enough of the booing and tomato throwing too, ok. I get it, I’m about to get to the good stuff right now… (gosh I miss this).
They say it’s the tough stuff that smooths you out in life. That the things that don’t break you, ultimately make you. And how could we forget the oft quoted “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger”. Right? We’ve all heard that before. But it’s amazing that in life, we can know this and still look at what everyone else has and want it. And what is true of life is also true of relationships. We want what appears to be the success of their end product; be it with regard to the success in relationships we think others enjoy, or anything else in life for that matter. But one thing we don’t see and the one thing we fail to consider is their process. That is to say the tough stuff they had to deal with in order to enjoy the success they currently do. I think a major fallacy of thinking when it comes to relationships is that there will never be any rough edges that need smoothing out. Or the mistake in thinking that the evidence of tough stuff only reaffirms the fact that the relationship is fragile and headed for brokenness. Somehow the visions we have of happily ever after don’t include sorting through challenges. They never involve coming up with compromises to seemingly insurmountable issues. Instead we envision relationships where it’s smooth sailing, with no rain in the forecast ever. Do we all gang up and revolt against Disney? I mean where’s the knight in shining armor that is supposed to knock us off our feet. Our vision certainly doesn’t include one of a knight who’s armor gets rusted and needs it to get polished. Let alone that we would be the ones polishing it!!! Neither does it include one of a princess who has grown overweight and can no longer we picked up by her knight and hears him grumble about it as a result. Where’s the fairy tale ending in that?
I make light of it here, but the sobering reality of relationships is… that they aren’t easy. They never stay in the lines. They get messy. Things break. Things are lost others are discovered. And maybe it’s the very things that break us, that also possess in them the ability to make us. I don’t know that we will ever be able to recognize the things that “break” us from the things that make us the moment we see it. Could it be that if we assume the mindset and attitude that what ever comes, although it may have the intent to break me I will only find a way to have it make me, and ultimately make me a better me.
(For some strange reason I feel the need to listen to Alicia Keys Unbreakable right now).
Wow, I felt like you just gave my come back speech! I have been feeling the exact same way. I’m ready to write but don’t know exactly what to say. For a while, I absolutely could not write anything because of processing my breakup three months ago. I feel uncomfortable writing about it because many of our mutual friends read it. I don’t want to put too much on display. As for me, my biggest mistake was getting too emotional too soon which caused me to miss many signs along the way because of the sentimental value that I placed on the relationship.
Great post! It was beautifully written. You have inspired me to freshen up.
Think the bottom line is to write for an audience of one– yourself. Once you can silence that inner critic, write like no one else is reading (if that is really possible). But write what you want to write, don’t write what you don’t want to write but just write. You’ll find if nothing more you will grow over time, and what bothered you before won’t bother you any more. The things you may be afraid to express now won’t carry with it that same cringe as time progresses and you’ll write about it if you want. Make the posts private that you don’t want certain people to read but get it out of your system, you’ll feel much better.
Thanks for stopping by!!!!!
Even the work that seems not so impressive can end up being apart of a bigger work of art in the grand scheme of things. So you should never allow that to discourage you. Glad your back! Also you should probably change the title of ur blog now seeing as ur no longer “boo-less” lol
hey, glad you’re back…sometimes the comeback is worth the wait…the question now is how long until your next post