Howdy guys!
It’s been a while. I know. I happened to look at my stats only to discover that even after months of inactivity on my end you guys are
still reading and visiting and I am inspired all over again. My inactivity here does not mean I have not been writing at all, just not posting. I’ll try to be more regular. Maybe I will actualize my life’s dream in the process. Here’s a piece I had written a little while ago. Hope you enjoy:
When conflict occurs, If peace and reconciliation Are to be the aims Then the issue of who was right And who was wrong Must be utterly abandoned. All that matters is that both seek To not continue in being wrong: By the inability to see things From the perspective of the other. The moment the two refuse to set both self And pride aside Long enough to acknowledge Why the other felt the way they did Perceived it as they did, This is where the greatest of the wrongs has occurred. So the true goal to winning becomes Not to convince the other of your rightness And their wrongness But to endeavor to understand clearly How it was perceived by the other And after all is said and done, Although they may not ever agree, Both win because the emphasis is placed on the two As a whole And not as separate entities In any given conflict Both had to play a part in contributing to it. But as long as both agree to Suspend their self preservation long enough To be touched by compassion and concern for the other That is if the two can grasp this principle, It will be the secret to success every time. Where this simple statement: “Based on your understanding of things, I see why you would feel that way”, Could mean the difference between Fulfillment and further frustration When communicating. When this approach is taken, The focus of each is shifted off of self And on to how both can better Understand Interact And communicate successfully with the other. And that is the secret to winning.
